After so many days I am back to my favorite place.. Here it’s only ‘Me’… Here I can write my real feelings. Here nobody will questioning me..nobody will judging me.. Here I can write the ugly truth of my journey. At this moment, the atmosphere of the whole world is quite unpleasant. For most of the people, life seems like hell.. Lockdown is such an irritating thing. But I don’t want to write about this.. Because I have no interest in all this things around me.. May be this is not right. Honestly speaking,I don’t care. I don’t want to be a hypocrite person. Here I will try to write what I actually want to write.. No lie,no more pretention. This is my own space..
Now it’s 2020… Time goes so quickly…. Gradually Sofia turned into a depressed person. She is now 32. She cursed herself for the present condition of her life. She hates herself for being so dumb. She was so stupid, who used to believe her family members blindly. She never did anything wrong to them and neither expected anything from them. All through her life,even when she was a small child, she never bothered any one. She cried,she felt lonely, she wanted to die,she wished to flee from her home,but she didn’t share her pain or thoughts with anyone. There was nobody,who could listen to her or to support her. Along with the time,she was able to handle all the odd situation all by herself. But she had to suffer for this, as she was a girl child…Today,it’s the ending of Sofia’s marriage part. I tried my best to describe shortly this incident. It was a very,very special things for Sofia, but at a point of time, marriage means the most terrible feelings for her!! She just wanted to close this chapter from her life…Sofia had a dream for herself…having her own family… a loving life partner. She was not a high ambitious girl. She remained satisfied whatever she had got in her life. She never did any kind of immoral acts in her life. She was a very coward person. She never had the courage to break the traditional rules of the society. She was careful about her action. Whenever,she did any mistakes in her life, she felt terrible. She then only thought about her mistakes. She was confident less,introvert typed girl. She always thought about her future life and to secure her future,she stopped herself from all trouble. She deprived herself from lots of happiness,in order to lead a safe life,for a better future. Was that wishes of Sofia too much? Was that a crime to believe parents? She never did wrong to anyone,then why Sofia’s life is so painful? Why she have no dream? Who is responsible for the condition of her present? I don’t know…. As a Muslim girl, may be she was not so pious. She didn’t performed religious duties properly. She didn’t prayed for five times,but she never stopped prayer. She tried to performed her prayer at least one time(it’s considered sin,as not to perform five times prayer in Islam. May be Sofia considered as sinner to Almighty. So hope for forgiveness). She didn’t wear burka or hijab..but she never broken the basic dress code of Islam. I know, wearing three piece is not considered as perfect dress in Islam. Here,it is not my justification,but it was quite tough for Sofia to follow proper Islamic life. So,now I want to write something….actually from the beginning, Sofia’s family was not a religious one nor a liberal one. It changed according to the situation! So imagine the conditions of children of this family. In her childhood, Sofia had observed that, her family was somehow liberal one. They were busy only about the worldly things. Her parents never ever taught Sofia and her siblings about right or wrong things. They never taught them about Islam and it’s basic things properly. As a Muslim, it was their first duty to educate the children ,especially about religion. But they were busy!! On a very few occasion, Sofia’s parents may be prayed,but Sofia can’t remember now! It was surprising that,on a few occasions Sofia’s father became conservative and somewhat religious. He didn’t allow to go his children to any relatives house. He became unhappy whenever Sofia went for shopping or to friend’s house. He didn’t like his daughters to dressed up or wear makeup. He abused people,who did love marriage. Once one of his niece married to her own choice. The groom was from another city. In Sofia’s city, people never got their daughter married outside. They ignored people from other city. Parents arranged their daughter marriage from their own area. And that is a tradition over the years. So, when the niece of Sofia’s father got married to the outsider, all relatives was very upset. All badmouthing her. That time, Sofia’s father said, if his any daughter did the same, he would killed her! So, love marriage considered as a sin in Sofia’s family. Actually, Sofia’s father was a confusing person. It was difficult to understand his mentality. He had a weird soft corner towards his niece(his elder brother daughter). He always did all the things,what his niece asked him to do. Neighbours around them,gossiping on the relation between Sofia’s father and his niece. As far, Sofia remember now,in her childhood, her parents quarrelled badly. Sometimes due to Sofia’s father extreme liking for his niece, or sometimes his behavior towards the female servants!! Once he was ready to marry a beautiful maid of his house. Sofia and her siblings were so terrified at that time. Later, somehow he didn’t married. Several times he announced to marry again,especially whenever he had a fight with his wife. They abused each other so badly. He even physically hurts his wife. And that was so violently. Sofia and rest of her siblings were close to the death due to fear. But,in all that situation,Sofia’s mother didn’t stopped to getting pregnant!! How could be this possible? When it’s about Sofia’s mother character, I can say that,she was like a curse for her daughters. Her nature always bring shame for them. In several occasions, Sofia observed her mother unnatural lust towards the opposite gender! There was some kind of similarity between husband and wife..isn’t it? When Sofia was in 9/10th standard, her father started his prayer for five times. Her mother didn’t prayed or wear burka or hijab. As a Muslim, it’s mandatory for men and women to prayed for five times. And for all the women, it’s mandatory to wear burka. But,Sofia’s mother never wear burka. She always like to show her body parts to all people. As her daughter, it was so embarrassing for Sofia. May be at 2015/16,Sofia’s mother started her prayer seriously. Here,I don’t like to discuss about such bad things about someone parents, but at this point it is necessary. I hope,Almighty will pardoned me. It can be said that,though Sofia’s parents were not so pious,but she could changed herself and she could followed Islam properly. This is totally a valid point. Sofia agreed that was a biggest mistake in her life. Still she felt guilty….Sofia had a bitter past. She was the witness of her parents sick action in their past life. It was very tough for a child to observe all the wrongdoings of his/her parents. It’s not so easy to forgive them. It’s not also possible to punish them!!!
Destiny is such a weird thing! It never did justice to Sofia. She was an extremely unlucky person. After the fight among family members at 2017,Sofia had to change her decision regarding marriage. She was not a shameless girl. It was all about her marriage,which caused lots of pain and humiliation to her. So, Sofia had to be strong and practical. She decided to stop the fake wedding drama. But,then her parents changed their strategy. They started to involve relatives, lots of religious persons (we Muslim, called them Maulana),who could convinced Sofia for marriage! Imagine this people’s psychology. Hats off to their arrogance. By hook or by crook, they only wanted to put more pressure on Sofia…. One fine day, Sofia’s cousin brother(who was approximately 25years older than Sofia), came to Sofia’s house and requesting her to met a guy. It was so embarrassing. He continuously requesting Sofia. Sofia was feeling helpless. All people of the family putting huge pressure on her. She tried her best to make understand her cousin politely but she had to lost against this filthy people. He promised Sofia that he will never do this. So against her wish,with a sorrowful mind, Sofia went to meet the guy and eventually he was a disgusting fellow. Sofia rejected this man. Moreover, this groom family claimed lots of money from Sofia’s father. Money was always a huge fact for him. He would never wanted to pay so much money for Sofia. So Sofia was saved from this mannerless man. Thanks to the money and to her father! Okay… then,another interesting story…One day,Sofia went to shopping with her two sisters. After sometimes, they went to a restaurant for evening snacks. But when they reached there,Sofia was surprised. Her elder sister and parents betrayed Sofia. They planned meeting with a man for marriage,and that was without Sofia’s permission. Sofia’s that cousin brother was also present there. But,this time all their efforts went vain. Because, this groom had poor educational qualification and there was a huge gap between the both family status. Sofia rejected this proposal.. At that time, Sofia decided to stop going with her elder sister. Because she lied to Sofia…. She could did the same drama with Sofia in the future again…Anyways, few days later,lots of well wishers of Sofia’s parents started to involve in Sofia’s matter. They just wanted to convince Sofia to met all the guys for marriage purposes. Sofia didn’t hear them this time. Sofia realized that, she should be strong,confident, shameless,fearless and of course selfish. She should have the courage to say “no” to the outsiders and told them the truth about her family… Then,at last, Sofia started to say no to all… She had stopped to think about all…she just became a selfish person, what she never wanted to be!!! Then,whenever, it was necessary, she told the truth to the relatives. She told them,how her parents playing games with her more than 6-7years. Then they realized Sofia’s pain. It was terrible feelings for Sofia to share such personal problems with outsiders , but she was helpless. All this years, she kept quiet. She was thinking about her family, her parents dignity, siblings future. But,at last all her efforts seemed worthless. Her parents, two brothers and their stupid deeds destroyed everything. All relatives started gossiping about Sofia’s family. They were commenting very bad things about Sofia and her character. It was an unfortunate fact that, Sofia lived in such society, where marriage is very important for women and that should be at a proper age. If she didn’t get married at right time,then her life became a living hell. Sofia was a victim of humiliation and that was for Marriage!!! Was that term”Marriage ” really so powerful? What was the fault of Sofia? Sofia had to punished. Because,she was the part of that abnormal family,or she was the daughter of extreme selfish parents, or she was a part of that weird,conservative society… I don’t know! In such society, relatives are like a thorn. They continually caused problems in someone’s life,especially when that person have already in rough phase of life. Sofia’s condition was like a scapegoat. Her relatives not only talked about her character,they also talked about her brothers action and their violent behavior. They even gossiping on Sofia’s brother- in-law,who had break Sofia’s marriage at 2012…. They were suspicious about Sofia’s past!!Sofia and her family lived in a small city. Here nobody can hide anything from people. In all this years,Sofia was hiding her pain. She was tolerating people’s humiliation quietly. She was afraid of her family’s humiliation, but at a point of time,this family’s reputation destroyed. And,that was not by Sofia, indirectly by her parents…. So after all this drama,few months later,Sofia’s family became normal again! Same life,same routine! As a family, they had to live together. But,there was a huge change in their inner self,their way of thinking. It was felt like…all of them were just acting with each other as a family members!! They already knew, what’s going on their mind…nothing hidden. After so much bitterness, how could be they happy? So it was all acting, all drama going on Sofia’s house. Here I don’t like to write more about the incident of that particular time. It’s tough to describe such distressing memories after so many days. It was painful for Sofia. I can only say that, the incident of 2017,totally changed the environment of the house,the people of the house, and of course the relations among the family members. It had drastically changed Sofia’s ways of thinking. We all know,life never stops. So as for Sofia and her family members. 2017 had gone… Then 2018…2019..and this family! It remained the same. No changes at all. The dream of Sofia’s parents were fulfilled. Their four children’s life were stopped. Happiness goes from their life. They have no dream. In all this years, Sofia’s parents performed their daily life routine and fake acting tremendously. But,they didn’t performed their real duties towards their children. They desperately wanted to get back the past event to their life. And that was Sofia’s marriage topic…just to force Sofia to met the guy,nothing more than it. It was like a routine work for them,which gave them unlimited joy for passing the time happily. But Sofia totally stopped to cooperates with them. They were feeling unhappy for this,not for Sofia or her future. And rest of the siblings? Nothing happened to them. Sofia’s younger sister also grow up with time. She was 20 at 2019. Time flies. But Sofia’s parents couldn’t believe this!!Are they okay or mentally unwell? All parents performed their duties according to the time. Whenever any of their child grow up, they help his or her to get settled in life. They give their children financial support according to their ability. Parents never ever stopped their children’s life or marriage. All know that, only through marriage, people can able to lead a normal life. How long a person can remain alone? All relatives of Sofia, got their children married at a very early age and that was quite normal tradition for that society. Marriage is not a forbidden thing…then why Sofia’s parents always against it? And unfortunately,that weird rule are only applicable for their children. Now there is a huge gap between Sofia’s family and their other relatives. These people didn’t stop the natural process of life. They didn’t stop the natural flow of children’s life. They took necessary steps for their children. Some went to abroad, some got married. Few parents even sold their property for their children happiness. Sofia’s father had a business, but he never involved his any son in that. Whenever, any of his son wanted to join his father’s business, he created some sorts of problems or humiliated him in front of outsiders. So,at present, there is nobody to handle the business. But their father has no regret at all! Actually, Sofia’s father never trust his children. He always loved his sister and two brothers. Later,he loved his brother’s children, especially one of his niece(his elder brother’s daughter). He helped to settle down his two brothers and their all children life. He always loved and trusted them more than his own children! And this is not Sofia’s imagination. She and her siblings experienced this negligence all over their life… Now come to Sofia’s mother. She is just like her husband. She cared more about her own brothers and sisters. She did lots of things in her,which proved that she was more concerned about her siblings, not her children. Here,I will not describe all the incidents. May be in the future, I will writer on this. In short,I can say that,from several incidents, it was evident that,Sofia’s parents always gave their priorities on their own siblings, not their children. And,today Sofia’s unhappy family is the outcome of their parents foolish action. Due to Sofia’s parents arrogance and stupidity, a happy family eventually turned into a grave….
2017 was a memorable year. As like the past years, Sofia’s parents were doing nothing special for the wellbeing of their four children. In all these years, all of the relatives of Sofia’s parents, did lots of hard work to make their children happy and established in life. Some had sent their son to foreign country, some got their son married and all relatives,who had daughters,got all of them married. Sofia’s parents never had the dream to see their children settled in life. Sofia in all her life, never ever hear that,her parents talked about their children’s future. They never planned anything! Along with her siblings,Sofia’s childhood was very tough. They were totally unhappy at that time. Sofia still remembered her parents ugly fight with each other. It was really scary! It was like that,after getting married, both of them just enjoyed their conjugal life,produced lots of children and enjoyed lots of extra people around them and the sick family drama. I had already wrote that, in the past, Sofia had a joint family. It was parted in 1998. It was a great relief for Sofia and her siblings but not for their parents. They really enjoyed that huge family, where their children were not happy. They felt suffocated among lots of cousins, uncle,aunt and so on. But their parents were clueless. They only brought six children in the world, even without proper planning. Surprising!!! Sofia and her siblings though had a terrible childhood. But,any how, all of them were brilliant at study. After completing graduation, Sofia’s elder brother wanted to start his family life with a girl. They loved each other from the university life. But he didn’t get any support from his parents. Not emotionally, not financially. He worked so hard and shifted to Australia all by himself, though his father was rich enough to help him. Till today, he can’t forget his pain…Sofia had an elder sister. She also got lots of humiliation and pain from her parents. After becoming an engineer, she got married with a doctor. Relatives,friends humiliated her for remaining unmarried. Though it was the fault of her parents. They spent three years to get her married after graduation. Sofia was very serious about her sister’s wedding. She always talked to her mother about this. She had given lots of energy for the wedding purpose. Whenever guests came to see her elder sister, Sofia did lots of work than their mother! Even at the wedding at 2009, Sofia had given her best. She worked like a mother of the bride! Though,later(after 4-5years!!!), Sofia realized that,it was her parents plan to make Sofia work hard! After all this, unfortunately,Sofia’s elder sister never did her duties towards Sofia. She was an extremely selfish person just like her parents. Sofia’s elder brother and sister always busy with their own life, they never bothered about their siblings. I think, they uphold this mentality from their parents! But what are the fault of siblings here? After the marriage of their elder daughter, Sofia’s parents were such relaxed persons. It seemed like,they had just two kids, not six. What about the rest of four? That time, their life began to revolves around elder daughter and son in law. In 2010, Sofia had already completed her post graduation. Then in 2012, one of her friend and well wisher brought the first “serious” marriage proposal for Sofia. Here I write “serious” word because, before this, lots of proposals were came but Sofia’s parents secretly sent back all of them! It was really bad for Sofia’s future. I already wrote about the engagement ceremony of 2012,which occurred in Sofia’s life. After the tragic event, her parents had started their disgusting marriage drama with her. And this drama eventually destroyed the peace of their family! How? Let me describe shortly…Sofia had other three siblings. As she got older, her immediate two brothers and one younger sister also getting older. So naturally after completing their studies,one brother wanted to got married and other wanted to go abroad. But their parents stopped them by saying that, now they wanted to get married Sofia, so rest of the things should be stopped for sometime,even their life!their dream!how disappointing… Imagine,how someone be so weird! How they stopped their own child’s life for Sofia’s marriage? And unfortunately, they had not the intention to get Sofia married….Sofia’s brothers waited then. But how long? From2010 to2017..seven long years. May be they waited more time, if in reality,they seen that,their parents really tried for Sofia’s marriage. Even Sofia’s siblings understood their parents drama. As a result, in2017,there was a huge crisis in Sofia’s house. Both of the brother of Sofia was totally changed as time passed, and that was due to the childish behavior of parents. Waiting is not the only option to stop person from moving on life. Sofia’s parents could sent their sons abroad. Sofia’s two younger brothers were totally different from their elder brother. He was a sensible person. But this two were not so calm and patient. Both of the brothers claimed that, they couldn’t wait for more years. They wanted to settle in life. They were not like Sofia’s elder brother, who had left the home with a broken heart and settled in his life all by himself. This two brothers wanted financial support from their father. They even claimed their share on the property. Their behavior was getting violent that time. So the atmosphere of the house also getting worse day by day. Sofia tried her best to make her parents understand and to take proper step for the harmony of family. But,as usual, they had neglected Sofia’s opinion. Out of rage, Sofia’s brothers also held responsible Sofia for the present condition of their life. Though, they know it very well, Sofia was not responsible for the present condition of the family. She never, ever stopped her parents to do something for her siblings. She always given opinion to her parents for the wellbeing of her siblings. She even made argument with parents for her brothers future. In the past,several times,Sofia told her parents,to sent at least one of their son to abroad. She also warned that, if they didn’t take proper step,in the near future, both of the brothers will create great problem for the family. But they ignored her prediction. Sofia was not their enemy. As an elder sister, she just wanted better life for her brothers. But ,at the end of day,her brothers blamed her! Sofia felt terrible that time. She felt like…there is no one beside her!! After all this things, their parents remained like before…. selfish, arrogant,dramatic. Sofia’s father was a such weird person. He didn’t want to get married Sofia, he didn’t want to give financial support to his son for business purposes,or he didn’t want to sent him to abroad. In a word,he didn’t want to settle his kids life at all. He just wanted to stop his children’s life! He liked to see that, his all children quarrelled with each other! He loved fighting! After the ugly fight of 2017,as time passed, all things went to normal again. Sofia’s parents started practicing their daily routine life…like sleeping, eating,talking to the matchmakers, gossiping through mobile. They didn’t change a little bit. It was looking like….nothing happened in the house! But Sofia didn’t forget. She couldn’t forget the blame,made by her siblings. She was in a shock. She couldn’t understand her fault. So,at this point of time,Sofia had to change her thinking about life. She had decided that,from now she will not meet with anyone for the marriage purpose. Enough is enough. She is just fed up by completing this drama for such a long time. She thought, if her marriage drama continued, then not only her life, but rest of her siblings future will be destroyed. Her parents didn’t had the sense of responsibility as parents. They were just selfish. Sofia didn’t want to take the blame that, she is responsible for the sufferings of her siblings,and that’s because of her parents evil game plan. Indeed, it was tough for a middle class girl, like Sofia, to take such huge decision on marriage. She promised herself that, what ever happens,she will not put herself in the trap of her parents,which they did from the last 6 years. She was shattered within, but there was no one to support her emotionally… There was no one to put a hand on her shoulder…. You will be surprised,even that time, when Sofia’s parents couldn’t forced her to met any groom, they started their emotional drama, like crying or requesting her for the meeting. In 2017,when again marriage proposal came for Sofia and she refused to met,they started their game in order to fulfill their arrogance. And at this point, they came up with a very disgusting tricks. They started to invited some close relatives, so that they can make understand Sofia to met the groom for marriage. It was so embarrassing. As a polite girl,it was difficult for Sofia to behave rudely with the relatives. Moreover, this outsiders didn’t know the real things of Sofia’s family. Her parents told them that,they were in a very bad condition. Mentally they were upset. They wanted to get married Sofia somehow. This is their only dream…etc. They lied so easily. But Sofia was not agreed. They were such two faced persons! Sofia couldn’t believed her parents. She was clueless what to do. What about her promise,which she made to herself? How could she told the bitter secret of her parents to the relatives? What about her self respect ?
Before starting my story, I want to say something. I know my writing is not so good. There will be lots of unintentional mistakes. So I sincerely apologized and hope readers will ignore it.. Today I will try to write less on the wedding incidents. Because from 2012-2017,Sofia met approximately hundred families for wedding purposes. So it is difficult for me to remember and write all the incidents. Moreover, I don’t want to bore the readers either. Okay then,get back to the story….As I mentioned earlier,being a patient person, Sofia was quietly observing her parents acts. She was not able to understand her parents intention. She was not so smart and complicated like them. Sofia was judging them from her point of view. She couldn’t understood that, all people were not like her. But unfortunately, at the end of day, she felt betrayed by her own parents. But people said that, parents are the most dear to all children….In Sofia’s life,at 2014/15,an old American guy came to her house as a groom. His age was above 50 and he was less educated also. Sofia’s parents were ready for this proposal. But as a sensible person, a friend of Sofia’s father ,stopped him from this wedding. He said, this man was totally mismatched for Sofia. That year,another guy was also came to Sofia’s house. He was a shorty. At the first meeting with Sofia, this man and his family insulted her so much. He was not embarrassed as he was such a short man than her. As a Muslim practitioner, Sofia always maintained her dress code. Even that day,when she met this man, she was wearing three piece suit. She was covering her head with a scarf. At a point of time, that man’s two sisters asked Sofia to take off her scarf. They were passing comments on her complexion, hair, dressing sense etc in front of her mother. And she was silent as usual. That day,Sofia was not quiet. She replied to them. They didn’t like Sofia’s behavior and Sofia didn’t like their rudeness and the guy. So this alliance had to break… Throughout her life,Sofia had confronted lots of weird peoples due to marriage purposes. She had lots of memories regarding this. Whenever, Sofia was convinced after meeting any guy for marriage, her parents did something stupid or unusual things. As a result,alliance broken and Sofia was heartbroken. In few cases, prospective groom were weird,mismatched,aged,fatty,less educated. So as a normal girl,Sofia had to reject them. She couldn’t got married against her choice. It’s about her life. But in those cases, Sofia’s parents put huge pressure on her for saying yes. But when Sofia liked any person as her life partner, her parents always throw away that person from her life! There were several incidents in Sofia’s past life like this. So I think,here I should stop my writing on this topic, but after describing an important incident. In 2017,Sofia took a huge decision,after she had met a groom for the last time. It was the time of Eid(Muslim festival), her family sent her to met a boy from America. Before met him,Sofia decided that,this is her last meeting with a guy for marriage purpose. If this time she failed, she will remain single and she will be happy with her destiny. So, Sofia met the groom. After the meeting, both of them were happy. They were agreed for the next step regarding marriage. One fine day,the matchmaker, who brought this proposal, came to Sofia’s house to inform that, today evening the groom family wants to came Sofia’s house for fixing next ritual. Their daughter also came from another city. So today it will be great for them. Here, if it was any other girl’s parents, they must invited them that day. Because it was very difficult to get such groom for girls in Sofia’s society. People got crazy to get married their daughter with such educated and foreign guy. But Sofia’s parents were exceptional. They had other plans. Sofia’s father was not interested to invites the groom family that day. He repeatedly said to the matchmaker that,today will not possible because his engineer elder daughter couldn’t came from her husband’s home. She was very important person! Sofia was already at home! But she was not so important, though it was about her marriage! Matchmaker was totally surprised. He couldn’t understand, why the presence of elder sister of the bride was so important. Moreover, it was not the wedding today. Groom family just wanted to fix the date for further rituals. Sofia was hearing their conversation. Like a shameless girl, she sent her mother to the guest room,so that she could managed the situation and invited the guests today. But her mother was like her father. Both of them were trying to avoid today’s guest. They said the matchmaker, the guests can come tomorrow. And that was a very unusual behaviour as the girl’s parents. When the matchmaker left Sofia’s home, her father went to the saloon for his beauty care! And her mother went to pick up her younger daughter from school. They were cool and calm like always! And Sofia..as usual sad,lonely. Traditionally, parents of any marriageable girls never refused groom family to came their home without valid reason. But Sofia’s parents did it!! After that incident,groom family was not happy. They had so many options for their boy. There were lots of sensible parents, who will not behaved like Sofia’s parents. After two or three days, the matchmaker came and said that, groom family didn’t want to came Sofia’s home. They got suspicious on Sofia’s parents behavior. They thought that,Sofia’s family replaced bride. According to them, Sofia was ugly and her elder sister was beautiful, so their parents showed her elder sister as a bride…Don’t get surprised. In that society, lots of incidents occurred like this. Parents presented their beautiful girl in front of the groom’s family and got married the less beautiful girl. Actually they replaced beautiful girl with less one on the wedding day. Such fraud things happened here till today. Some groom accept the reality and some are not. So they got divorced. Sofia was a very normal girl. She was not a revolutionist. So it was not her duty to change the mentality of her society or the society. As a part of the particular society, she should maintain the custom and tradition. If not,she would be declared as a abnormal person. Sofia tried her best to be a social and normal girl but not her family. As a result, today Sofia is considered as weird person to the rest of people around her,specifically to her friends and relatives…After such intolerable incident, Sofia had to lost her patience. She decided to stop this drama of humiliation herself. She understood that, in the name of her marriage, her parents only passing their time. They had not the intention to get her married. Such occasion only bring humiliation for her,nothing else. She thought that, may be it is the destiny of her to left alone. Moreover,she couldn’t involved herself in a relationship at this stage of her life. Affair is not meant for her. It is not possible for her to get someone for herself as a life partner. If it was possible, she could did it long time ago…As a stupid girl,Sofia considered herself like other girls, whose parents happily arranged their marriage. Sofia never wished to became that typed of girl, who blamed others for everything. She never wanted to be a burden on someone. She got the higher study for her better future. But at a point of time, she had the realisation that, all her efforts, all her dreams got shattered. She couldn’t understand what were the mistakes she had made… May be good luck also left her side just like the family!!!!
Welcome back to Sofia’s life story. In my last writing, I had mentioned that from 2012 ,Sofia’s parents started their drama. They wanted Sofia to believe that ,her parents tried their best to get her married. But all these things was just a drama. Actually their real intention was to pass the time. They never tried to understand the value of time or life! They were busy only about present life. Like other parents, they never did proper planning for Sofia’s future. Even they never made proper inquiry on the prospective groom. They just forced Sofia to confront the groom family. Sometimes she was just surprised, when she met the groom. Once she met a mentally unstable person. He was weird and near to Sofia’s father age. She was shocked that time. How could her parents let that man to met her!Later Sofia came to know that few girls insulted this old man badly for his age and illness. These girls didn’t thought about their parents prestige. But Sofia was stupid. She was quiet but definitely it hurts her a lot. Sofia also met a very fat man,who was feeling embarrassed when he first met Sofia, but not Sofia’s parents. They never tried to find out the age or appearance of the groom. They just sent Sofia to met them. Only god knows their real intention that time…After the shocking incident of 2012,Sofia tried her best to overcome the trauma. But her family continuously hurts her and making her ways more and more difficult. In 2014,a well wisher brought a marriage proposal for Sofia. That man was not good looking. He was a very healthy guy. Most of the beautiful girls like Sofia may be rejected this man by seeing his figure but Sofia didn’t. She was ready to compromise. This family liked Sofia and invited her parents to their home to fixed the wedding date. Sofia was happy. But when her parents went to the groom’s house,they eventually broke the alliance. Sofia’s younger brother told that,her father started unusual behaviour with the groom’s father. Sofia’s mother kept quiet. Actually her father was not happy with this alliance because they were very rich from him!!When he came out from the groom’s house, he said that,he knows it before this marriage will not happened and that’s why he fight with them! What a theory! Sofia’s brother was speechless. He was very happy about this proposal. The groom also behaved very well with him. But after this incident, he stopped talking about Sofia’s wedding. According to him,Sofia’s parents intentionally broke that alliance. And their act was totally unforgivable. Even the well wisher,who brought the proposal said the same. Sofia was shattered within. From 2012 to 2017,many proposals came to Sofia’s house. Whenever any groom’s family choose Sofia and ready for the wedding, her parents did something unusual and eventually broke the alliance. Whenever any matchmaker brought proposals for Sofia, her parents never described good qualities of her,rather they badmouthing of her. And this was so unusual behaviour of them. In Sofia’s society, all parents of marriageable girls described their girls so nicely and that was necessary. And it is true that most of them lied lots about their daughter. May be they did it to coverup their daughter flaws. Or they wanted to settle her life. And it is not bad according to the custom of that particular society. Here my point is not about the right or wrong. It is about the concern of the parents for their daughter. But Sofia’s parents always lied about Sofia, just to stop her wedding and stop her life being normal. But why? Sofia don’t get the answer,till now.. Sometimes Sofia heard her parents absurd talking by her own ears and sometimes her siblings or servants told this things to Sofia. Sofia was such a calm and patient person till that time. She believed, after the almighty, parents are the most respected person. And parents never wished bad for their children. But Sofia was wrong. Most of the times, Sofia hear her parents conversation with the matchmaker or the groom family but couldn’t believed her own ears. It was very tough to believe. How could her own parents did this to her! By doing this,gradually they destroyed her reputation and eventually her future. Sofia’s father even criticized about Sofia in the presence of lots of matchmakers!! Every person have some flaws and as a human being Sofia had also some negative qualities but is it okay to discuss it with outsider persons like matchmakers, who fixed marriage on the basis of good quality of a girl? And unfortunately whatever Sofia’s father told them about Sofia, 99% things were lies!! Her mother was as usual kept her mouth shut. She was only concerned about herself. She never talked about her children’s happiness. She never stopped her husband from badmouthing of Sofia. And the real reason was that,it was not about her,it’s about Sofia. Such a selfish person! Is she a mother! How?Now Sofia understand that,her father intention was never got her married. And to stop her wedding, he did that things. But he could told Sofia about his intention or his inability for the wedding. Then Sofia could took some steps for her future. Why he did such filthy drama with her?I know after reading my writing, somebody may be thinking that, Sofia have so much hatred towards her parents. But this is not true. We all believe on our own self. Whatever we see or hear by our own eyes or ears,how could we discarded it? How long a person could believe on such parents?They did this types of disgusting drama more than hundred times with Sofia for 7years. She is a normal human being. She has the limit of tolerance. She had given lots of chances to her parents but they only give her humiliation and pain..nothing else. May be Sofia was wrong or right but unfortunately there was no chance of Misunderstanding…
Playing with anyone’s feelings intentionally is the worst act by ‘people’. And if these ‘people’ are parents, then victim is the most unlucky person in the world. Any normal person never imagined that one day his/her own parents will be held guilty for the destruction of his/her life . In my story, Sofia is the victim. I have already mentioned that, at the end of 2012,Sofia had got a job. May be from this time or from 2013,her parents started their disgusting game with Sofia. They had started to present Sofia in front of numerous groom’s family. But their real intention was not to arrange Sofia’s marriage. They only did it for time passing. But to confront the numerous groom’s family was very difficult and mentally stressful for Sofia. Her life became a living hell then. We know that, marriage is a special things for all girls. They have always a dream to have their own family and life partner. In Sofia’s society, when any groom’s family come to see the girl, it is considered a very special matter for the girl (prospective bridegroom). It’s not only about a traditional matter, it’s about the feelings of a girl to confront her future in-laws and husband. That is totally an emotional stuff. But according to Sofia’s parents, it’s nothing special. It’s just an occasion to have good foods and spending some times to avoid boring ness. They are not even tensed like other parents,what if the groom’s family rejected their daughter! And this is not my personal view,this is that particular society’s culture and point of view. And undoubtedly, Sofia’s parents view is very exceptional in that society! After the engagement incident, Sofia’s parents were acting like nothing happened!! Though Sofia’s few close friends warned her that, the engagement incident must have an effect in her future life because that was a huge fact for Sofia as a person of such traditional and conservative society. Sofia was really scared for her life…. Yet her parents were carefree and living their so called busy life. And the busy life means gossiping,eating, watching tv,reading newspaper and so on.We all know this is called daily life routine. And besides this life,all parents also performed their duties towards their children especially towards daughter. They claimed themselves perfect Muslim. According to them, they are pious and great human. But in Islam, if any parents did not performed their basic duties towards their daughter, Almighty will surely punished them. They will considered as a great sinner. How could human be such a fraud person? How they have such mentality? At 2019, Sofia believe that her parents only love themselves. They are hypocrite and too much selfish. They never ever thought about their children’s life. They always denied their duties. They never accept the fact that, if they do not fulfill their duties as parents, how they expect that children will perform their duties towards their parents in the future? It’s sound weird but this is the reality…. All parents and children have this kind of relationship. Now I will not write too much on this topic. Let’s get back to the main character, I mean Sofia. Sofia is a person who have some flaws as a human being. But she was a honest and emotional person. She was an introvert. She never shared her pain with anyone. She had a false smile on her face. But she was shattered within. She had a great level of tolerance. She suffered her parent’s wrongdoings silently for such a long time. From 2012,they started their filthy game. They invited groom family to Sofia’s home. They also sent Sofia outside the home to meet with groom family. From 2012 to 2019,Sofia can’t calculate the exact number of groom she had meet! This is a long time..almost 8 years. In this time period,so many things happened in Sofia’s life. I will try to write less on this topic. Moreover, it is impossible to remember all the incidents..